The Canada we remembered and thought we lived in is over and it is never coming back.
No amount of talking to people at bars, starting your own political parties, forming secret militias to plan out rebellions you never act on will change anything.
What we're seeing happening is the natural conclusion of what happens when organized government has much more power than average citizens. I don't mean power as determined by law but I mean hard power as determined by men and technologies of war.
We actually began to see this shift during the industrial revolution as weapons of war become far more advanced and outside the reach of average people to acquire; however, it wasn't a large disparity until really the second industrial revolution and it has been ever increasing since then, not just in weapons but in communication (satellites), etc... with this new age giving the power of instant control and ideology shifting through the mechanisms of information dissemination (internet, social media, mainstream news etc...).
What we have no is an extreme imbalance in power between average citizens and governments. This always leads to one conclusion which is the continued path toward absolute control in everything.
You are here because you have Traditional Western Values from the 1800s era that have been passed down generation to generation. You believe in individualism, in liberalism (the classical kind) and have an inherent believe that less government is good. You are a dying breed and you will cease to exist soon enough. The government now has control over the culture and you can see it in each new generation who aligns more and more with the government's perspective.
The biggest problem you have is that you understand that the government is not using its power to benefit the people but rather is using its power to benefit itself. The people who accept what the government is doing do not understand how the government does not truly have their interest at heart. In this manner, these people who obey the government are your enemies but they ought not to be if only they understand the situation. They don't however, so you are forced to treat them as enemies and who wants to live in a country full of your enemies?
You are probably wondering, what can you do? There are only truly 3 solutions. You're probably not going to like any of them but they are the only real solutions.
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Develop new military technology that is cheap, easy to construct, easy to use without training and can be made widely available that reduces the disparity between government and average people's power.
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Develop some new technology or social structure that changes the way in which wealth is created by improving production so significantly that it changes the very makeup of society altogether. Examples of this in history would be the industrial revolution or using animals instead of human slaves.
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Ride the Tiger of Modernity. Basically, accept that this is the way things are and you can't change them so don't even try. Just stick to what you believe is right and adapt to society so you can get along and be happy without constantly struggling to combat this situation. The metaphor is that the only place you're safe from a tiger is on its back. You can't control which way the tiger goes but because you've opted not to fight it but to ride it, you will come out unharmed even if you have no control over the direction it takes you.
There is technically a 4th option of get conquered by another civilization but that's maybe not optimal.
You are lucky then. I don't enjoy my life. I know plenty of guys that don't enjoy theirs either. Any guy who isn't enjoying things will stop and analyze why. For many guys, the problems lies in the structure of society. It is not possible for some guys to enjoy their life because of how the structure of society is.
Again, some guys get lucky, like yourself but many guys don't.
When guys who didn't get lucky decide to focus their energy on trying to improve things for themselves, every guy will eventually hit the blackpill because the sad reality is that men don't actually have any power or control in their lives enough to change the systems in place that are negatively impacting men's lives.
That leads to either accept things, move on and hope to get lucky in the future or don't accept things and try your best to navigate life while never finding it enjoyable.
It's not about reading forums like this. I know plenty of depressed guys that refuse to read forums like this. Personally, I find forums like this uplifting, knowing that it's not just me suffering out there.
The solutions I gave aren't hopeless ones, just hard ones to accomplish. I see too many solutions focused on "vote this party" or "organize a revolution". Both those are the wrong solutions IMO. False hope that won't ever solve anything.
Yeah, attraction is huge in our society, especially for men. Being attractive as a man IMO is far more important than a woman. Unattractive women have many more options than unattractive men.
I lost out on the attractiveness thing. Even though I workout and exercise almost 7 days a week (Muay Thai and weight lifting), I'm just not there on the attractiveness scale. Genetics.
I've come to the same conclusion as you: "the best you can do is just have a family and shape the future you want to see through your kids". That's the part modern society bars from me. In order to start a family you need to find a woman but if women are being influenced by the very society you oppose, how will you be able to "shape the future you want to see through your kids" when she has divorced you, taken the kids and taught them the very opposite of what you believe?
You can say I'm over exaggerating but I'm already divorce, though no kids. I'm old enough now, 33yo, to know what kind of woman will work for me to start a family with and I can't attract this sort of women. The structure of society is very much a problem for this. Statistically, it's not just me with problems. The number of single adults in their prime ages has increased from 20% in the 60s to ~50% now. Divorces are up. Single mothers are up. The birth rate of natural western civilization people are below sustainable rates. Did you know the most unhappy archetype of person that exists in western society is a 40s single professional woman without children or a husband? But that is literally what the structure of society creates instead of creating mothers and wives, which means all in the community suffer, though the government doesn't care because they're fine with immigrants, a higher tax base and more productivity.
I'm glad it worked out for you though and I'm glad you're at least on this side of the fence. I see too many men that find what they're looking for in life and then blame everyone else who is unable to find what they want on themselves because their logic is if they can do it anyone can do it such that they deny there are any structural problems at play.