As a man who has done the same, I also agree with the concept that "more sex hurts your chances of a real relationship" but I would also say that any person, man or woman has the ability within themselves to put aside the "sin" (negative emotions and barriers) the "more sex" has led to such that it is still possible. As you say, it makes it more difficult but the easier path isn't necessarily the better path.
I would argue that the real problem in our society is equality combined with men and women's desire for hypergamy. Men prefer women who are relatively more attractive (from a physical and personality perspective) than them and women prefer men who are relatively better at providing (have more wealth/power/reputation) than themselves. More sex means more experiences which means one has a much better perspective on relative attractiveness and relative wealth/power/reputation which means one isn't fooled by inexperience. This can be a good thing because we see time and time again, people who fall in love early in life only to fall out of love after they develop a larger breadth of experience.
The fact of the matter is that by making women equal to men, we've essentially reduced the relative pool of attractive men from a woman's perspective in half. Not only that but for women to be equal to men they were forced to forgo self-improvement on physical appearance because they needed to spend more time/energy on education/career/work while also being forced to adopt masculine personality traits while forgoing feminine personality traits. This means from a man's perspective the pool of attractive women has shrunk roughly in half as well. People who have more sex get a better gauge of reality and it makes it much harder to fall in love when most women are unattractive to men and most men are unattractive to women. Only inexperienced people have the lack of perspective to fool their minds into falling in love; however, they always run the risk of falling out of love once they get a greater perspective.
That's my take anyway. I would be interested in hearing your take.
As a man who has done the same, I also agree with the concept that "more sex hurts your chances of a real relationship" but I would also say that any person, man or woman has the ability within themselves to put aside the "sin" (negative emotions and barriers) the "more sex" has led to such that it is still possible. As you say, it makes it more difficult but the easier path isn't necessarily the better path.
I would argue that the real problem in our society is equality combined with men and women's desire for hypergamy. Men prefer women who are relatively more attractive (from a physical and personality perspective) than them and women prefer men who are relatively better at providing (have more wealth/power/reputation) than themselves. More sex means more experiences which means one has a much better perspective on relative attractiveness and relative wealth/power/reputation which means one isn't fooled by inexperience. This can be a good thing because we see time and time again, people who fall in love early in life only to fall out of love after they develop a larger breadth of experience.
The fact of the matter is that by making women equal to men, we've essentially reduced the relative pool of attractive men from a woman's perspective in half. Not only that but for women to be equal to men they were forced to forgo self-improvement on physical appearance because they needed to spend more time/energy on education/career/work while also being forced to adopt masculine personality traits while forgoing feminine personality traits. This means from a man's perspective the pool of attractive women has shrunk roughly in half as well. People who have more sex get a better gauge of reality and it makes it much harder to fall in love when most women are unattractive to men and most men are unattractive to women. Only inexperienced people have the lack of perspective to fool their minds into falling in love; however, they always run the risk of falling out of love once they get a greater perspective.
That's my take anyway. I would be interested in hearing your take.
I mean, you said that before. I was hoping for maybe the title ;)